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Sudden death: including accidents, suicide and homicide

These books and resources may be helpful for people who have been bereaved by a sudden death.

For further help in finding resources, email [email protected] or call our Helpline on 0800 02 888 40.


Inclusion on this list does not constitute a recommendation or endorsement by Child Bereavement UK, as we are aware that whether a book is helpful or not is subjective and as such is a decision that can only be made by the individual reader.

Sudden death

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A Terrible Thing Happened

Margaret M Holmes

Sherman saw the most terrible thing happen. At first he tried to forget about it, but soon something inside him started to bother him. He felt nervous for no reason. Sometimes his stomach hurt. He had bad dreams. And he started to feel angry and do mean things, which got him in trouble. Then he met Ms. Maple, who helped him talk about the terrible thing that he had tried to forget. Now Sherman is feeling much better.

This gently told and tenderly illustrated story is for children who have witnessed any kind of violent or traumatic episode, including physical abuse, school or gang violence, accidents, homicide, suicide, and natural disasters such as floods or fire.

An afterword by Sasha J. Mudlaff written for parents and other caregivers offers extensive suggestions for helping traumatized children, including a list of other sources that focus on specific events.

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Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief

Dr. Joanne Cacciatore

When a loved one dies, the pain of loss can feel unbearable--especially in the case of a traumatizing death that leaves us shouting NO! with every fibre of our body. Through generous, insightful writing and moving stories of her encounters with grief over decades of supporting individuals, families, and communities--as well as her own experience with loss--Cacciatore opens a space for us to process, integrate, and deeply honour our own grief. 

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Don't Let Them Tell You How to Grieve: Lines to let you know you are not alone

Gina Claye   

Poems written by a mother who experienced the sudden deaths of her 19-year-old daughter by suicide and her 32-year-old son from encephalitis.

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Is Daddy Coming Back in a Minute?

Elke Barber & Alex Barber

Alex is only three when his father has a heart attack. All on his own, Alex manages to get help but his beloved Daddy dies at the scene. Explains sudden death to pre-school children using words and illustrations they will understand.

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Someone has died in a road crash

Mary Williams OBE and Caroline Chisholm   

Two young characters, who have been bereaved by a road crash, narrate the colourful book by giving caring and helpful tips. Tackling all the tough questions that children may want to ask, the book deals with the crash itself, funerals, police investigation and the possible emotions a child may experience. There is also an additional download with tips for adults on how to use the book with young children.

Download from Brake

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The Family Has Been Informed: Supporting bereaved children from military families 

Winston's Wish

This specialist book offers information and guidance to military families after someone has died, and the professionals who are supporting them.

Building on our experience of working with bereaved families, it covers the variety of causes of death that service personnel and their families may experience and offers an overview of some of the feelings and thoughts people may have. Practical guidance, ideas for activities and suggestions for helpful resources are offered alongside where to find support.

Supported by Help for Heroes.

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When Something Terrible Happens: Children Can Learn to Cope with Grief

Marge Heegaard

Terrible things can happen to children. Traumatic events in the lives of their families, their friends or in the world leave then feeling confused, insecure and frightened. There are floods, earthquakes, and sometimes people cause violence and trauma. This is a workbook designed to help children understand and deal with overwhelming feelings from loss and change.

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Published: 16th November, 2022

Updated: 10th April, 2026

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Bereavement by suicide

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A Special Scar: The experiences of people bereaved by suicide

Alison Wertheimer

Written and researched by a bereaved sibling, this book covers the losses of siblings, parents, children and friends.

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Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief

Dr. Joanne Cacciatore

When a loved one dies, the pain of loss can feel unbearable--especially in the case of a traumatizing death that leaves us shouting NO! with every fibre of our body. Through generous, insightful writing and moving stories of her encounters with grief over decades of supporting individuals, families, and communities--as well as her own experience with loss--Cacciatore opens a space for us to process, integrate, and deeply honour our own grief. 

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Beyond the Rough Rock: Supporting a Child Who Has Been Bereaved Through Suicide

Di Stubbs and Julie Stokes

This booklet offers practical advice for families in the immediate days and weeks when suicide has been the cause of death. It aims to give parents and professionals the confidence to involve children in discussions about the nature of a death by suicide.

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Don't Let Them Tell You How to Grieve: Lines to let you know you are not alone

Gina Claye   

Poems written by a mother who experienced the sudden deaths of her 19-year-old daughter by suicide and her 32-year-old son from encephalitis.

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Help is at hand: A resource for people bereaved by suicide

Department of Health 

This free guide is for people who are affected by suicide or other sudden, traumatic death. It aims firstly to help people who are unexpectedly bereaved in this way. It also provides information for healthcare and other professionals who come into contact with bereaved people, to assist them in providing help and to suggest how they themselves may find support if they need it.

Download from Support After Suicide Partnership

I Love You, Sunshine

Addy Farmer and illustrated by Darren Gate

I Love You, Sunshine tells the story of how one dad dies by suicide and how it affects his eight year old daughter, Milly, and the rest of her family. It is a story of bereavement but it is also a story of love. It is intended as a way for all families bereaved by suicide to know that they are not alone; to build resilience through understanding; and to help take small steps forwards.

The story has been informed and developed through conversations with bereaved parents and with feedback from bereavement support practitioners at Child Bereavement UK. The charity has provided the important parental guidance notes to go alongside Milly’s story. These notes also point the way to support networks for families bereaved by suicide. The book is intended for distribution and sale to bereavement charities, to school counsellors and to anybody who might find it a useful resource.

Available from Addy Farmer where 5% of all sales will go to Child Bereavement UK or Buy from Amazon

Kids' Helpful Guide: When a Loved One Dies by Suicide (Lessons in Loss)

Deborah Brown

This journal is packed with tailor-made activities designed to help children aged 7-11 manage the loss of a loved one to suicide. It offers a creative and supportive space for children to process their feelings.

An accompanying Adult Support Guide, provides support for the adult who may work with the child is also available to purchase. This guide offers insights and advice to help adults facilitate the child's use of the journal and provide additional emotional support.

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Luna’s Red Hat

Emmi Smid

This book tells the story of Luna, whose mum died by suicide one year ago and she still finds it difficult to understand why. Dad talks to her and explains what happened, and together they think about all the happy memories they have of Mum. This book is designed to be read with children age 6+ who have experienced the loss of a loved one by suicide. It includes a guide for parents and professionals.

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Rafi's Red Racing Car

Louise Moir

This book aims to help young children come to terms with the loss of a family member to suicide. Through sensitive language, the character Rafi struggles with his emotions, finally learning they are all natural. Recommended for ages 3 to 8 years.

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The Little Flower Bulb

Eleanor Gormally

This book follows the story of Jamie, his mum and twin sisters as they come to deal with the death of his father to suicide. The illustrated book helps children understand suicide and parents talk with children about death. Recommended for ages 3 to 10 years.

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Published: 16th November, 2022

Updated: 10th April, 2026

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Murder and manslaughter

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A Grief Like No Other: Surviving the Violent Death of Someone you Love

Kathleen O’Hara 

Violent death brings to survivors a different kind of grief. From intense feelings of guilt, anger and post-traumatic stress, to years spent dealing with the legal ramifications, those left behind in the wake of violence have to contend with unique circumstances that are different from a “natural” death.

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Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss, and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief

Dr. Joanne Cacciatore

When a loved one dies, the pain of loss can feel unbearable--especially in the case of a traumatizing death that leaves us shouting NO! with every fibre of our body. Through generous, insightful writing and moving stories of her encounters with grief over decades of supporting individuals, families, and communities--as well as her own experience with loss--Cacciatore opens a space for us to process, integrate, and deeply honour our own grief. 

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From A Clear Blue Sky: Surviving the Mountbatten Bomb

Timothy Knatchbull

On the August bank holiday weekend in 1979, 14-year-old Timothy Knatchbull went on a boat trip off the shore of Mullaghmore in County Sligo, Ireland, with many members of his family. By noon, an IRA bomb had destroyed the boat, leaving four dead.

The author survived, but his grandparents, a family friend, and his 14-year-old twin brother did not. 

This is a story of recovery, not just from physical wounds but deep emotional trauma. Knatchbull and his parents were too badly injured to attend the funerals of those killed, a sadness that intensified their profound sense of loss.

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Hope Beyond the Headlines: Supporting a Child Bereaved through Murder or Manslaughter

Di Stubbs and Kate Gardner

This new book offers practical advice for families in the immediate days, weeks and months following a murder. It is written for both parents and professionals, giving them confidence to involve children and young people in understanding and managing the particular difficulties and complexities that so often surround a death by murder or manslaughter.

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Published: 16th November, 2022

Updated: 10th April, 2026

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